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First Meeting
Met a girl thrice, she is great but zero physical attraction
On paper and in person she is wonderful. Kind, smart, we talk easily. Everyone says marry her.
Problem is there is just no spark for me physically. I keep hoping it grows but after 3 meetings it hasnt moved.
Does attraction build over time in AM or am I kidding myself? Dont want to waste her time or settle into a marriage that feels like a friendship. How did you decide?
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Great on paper and a friend vibe is lovely, but you will both want more over 40 yrs. Dont settle into a roommate marriage.
Respect her enough to not string it along hoping. Either it moves soon or you free her kindly. Both of those are fair.
Separate no spark from nerves and overthinking. Sometimes the pressure kills the spark. One relaxed meeting can tell you.
As a woman, please dont marry me out of everyone says so while feeling nothing. I would rather be let go kindly now.
Give it one or two more real meetings in a relaxed setting. If still nothing, let her find someone who lights up for her.
Do not marry hoping it appears. If it is truly zero, that is unfair to both of you. She deserves someone who feels it.
Attraction can grow, but it needs a tiny seed to start. Three meetings and literally zero is a hard sign, not nothing.
OP here. Yeah I think I am confusing hope with nerves. Gonna do one relaxed meet then decide honestly. Thanks folks.
Attraction built slowly for me too, but there was a base to build on. Honesty now beats a polite marriage with no heat.
For me attraction grew once I saw her personality more. But I had a spark at the start. Zero start is different, be honest.