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We both want to be child free, how to bring it up before marriage?
Me and the girl I am talking to both dont want kids. We are clear about it between us, which is great. Problem is the families. Both sets of parents assume grandkids are a given. We know if we say it now there will be a storm, but hiding it till after marriage feels wrong and ho...
He earns less than me, will it become a problem later?
29F here. Met a guy twice, genuinely nice, we click on most things. Only thing is I earn roughly double what he does. Right now neither of us cares. But I keep hearing from aunties that it "never works", that the guy ego kicks in after a few yrs. Anyone actually living this? Di...
Met a girl thrice, she is great but zero physical attraction
On paper and in person she is wonderful. Kind, smart, we talk easily. Everyone says marry her. Problem is there is just no spark for me physically. I keep hoping it grows but after 3 meetings it hasnt moved. Does attraction build over time in AM or am I kidding myself? Dont wan...
LDR right after marriage, can it actually work?
Both of us liked each other, families are on board. Catch is he is in Blr, I am in Delhi, and neither job can move for at least a year. So basically we would be married but living apart, meeting once a month maybe. Parents say "beta adjust ho jayega". Easy for them to say. Has ...
Girl seemed perfect, then blocked me after families talked money
We clicked over 3 weeks of chatting. Then the families had the money talk, my side couldnt match some expectation, and she went silent. Blocked me two days later. No message, nothing. The same person who texted good morning daily. I am more confused than hurt. Was it ever real ...
30F, tired of being told my standards are too high
I want a partner who reads a little, treats staff well, and can hold a real conversation. Apparently this makes me picky and unrealistic at 30. Every relative has a lecture about compromising before it is too late. Nobody gives my brother the same speech. Are these actually hig...
32F divorcee, are my chances in AM really that bad?
Divorced 2 yrs ago, no kids, short marriage that went wrong fast. Financially independent, own place, good job. Started looking again and the proposals are either way older guys or men who treat "divorcee" like a discount tag. One literally asked why I should expect the same as ...
First meeting he spoke only to my dad, never looked at me
Had the first meeting today, both families. The guy spoke to my father the entire time about work and property. Did not ask me a single question. When I spoke he gave one word answers and looked at his dad. I felt invisible at my own meeting. Is this nerves or is this a preview...
She wants me to move cities for her job. Am I wrong to hesitate?
Met a girl twice, we genuinely get along. Her career is in Hyd and she is clear she wont move. Mine is set in Pune with my aging parents here. She asked if I would relocate. I said I need to think and she went a bit cold. I am not against it in theory but leaving my parents alo...
Guy is divorced with a kid. Family says no, I think he is genuine
29F. Met a guy, divorced, has a 4 yr old with shared custody. He was upfront about all of it from day one, which I respect a lot. He is mature, stable, kind, and honestly the best conversation I have had in this whole process. My family hears divorced plus kid and shuts down in...
26F, parents rushing me because my younger sister got a proposal
A really good proposal came for my younger sister. Now my parents are panicking that she will marry before me and it will look bad. Suddenly I am being shown 5 profiles a day and told to hurry. I am not against marriage but I dont want to pick someone in a rush just to beat my o...
Dowry was hinted at from her side. How do I handle this?
Plot twist, it is the GIRLS side hinting at expectations, a fully furnished flat and a car before the wedding. Phrased as blessings for the couple of course. My family is quiet about it but uncomfortable. I am dead against the whole thing on principle. How do I shut this down w...
He keeps saying wife should adjust. Small word, big worry
Talking to a guy for 2 weeks. Nice on most things, but he keeps dropping the word adjust. Adjust with my parents, adjust the job timings, adjust the cooking. Never once has he said we will figure it out together. Always me adjusting. Is this a language thing I am reading too mu...
Parents fixed a girl without asking me. Meeting is next week
Came home to find my parents have basically shortlisted a girl and told her family we are interested. I only saw one photo. Meeting is set for next Sun. I am not even angry, more stunned they moved this far without a word to me. How do I go into this meeting without feeling lik...
We matched on everything but he smokes and hides it. Dealbreaker?
Everything else fits, values, family, humour, plans. Then I found out he smokes, which he had flat out denied twice when asked. It is not even the smoking that gets me most, it is that he lied about it so easily to my face. If he hid this small thing so smoothly, what else gets...
His family wants a grand wedding we cant afford. Pressure is insane
Guy and I are on the same page, keep it simple. His parents want 600 guests, destination, the works. My parents are stretching loans just to not look small. I hate that our marriage is starting with debt and ego. Guy says he will handle his parents but nothing changes. How do c...
Rejected over kundli mismatch after 3 meetings, gutted
We met 3 times. It was going really well, both families happy, we had even casually talked about dates. Then their pandit said the horoscopes dont match and suddenly everything is off. No discussion, no nothing. I am not even that into all this but it stings that months of talk...
How much do looks and salary actually matter in AM?
I am 31F, decent job, moved to Pune last yr for work. I am on the heavier side and I earn a bit more than most guys my family brings. Half the time they stop replying after seeing my salary, other half it is the photos. My dad is not around and my mom is not well, so I am mostl...
28M, parents rejecting every girl over caste, I am done
I have met 3 girls in the last 6 months that I actually liked. All 3 got shot down by my parents, same reason every time, caste. I dont care about it. They treat it like a dealbreaker above everything, education, nature, values, all of it. I am at the point where I am thinking ...
27M, girl asked my exact salary and savings on the first call
Had my first call with a prospect yest. Within 5 mins she asked my in hand salary, savings, and whether I have a home loan. I get wanting a stable guy but it felt like a loan interview, not a conversation. We never even talked about what we like or want in life. Am I being too ...
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